Happy fall, y’all!

Adoptive parents hoping to adoptHello, fall! We’re so excited for the start of our favorite season.

This is the time every year that we dive head first into pumpkin everything.

In our kitchen so far we have:

– Pumpkin coffee
– Pumpkin coffee creamer
– Pumpkin oatmeal
– Pumpkin butter
– Pumpkin English muffins
– Pumpkin ale

Whenever Jillian sees something pumpkin flavored, she purchases it immediately and we throw it in the mix. The first sign of fall for us isn’t leaves on the ground, because in Texas they are still on the trees. The first sign is pumpkin coffee creamer lining the grocery store aisles. So, for us, fall is officially here. Yay for sweater weather, sitting around our fire pit, and everything pumpkin!

5 things…

5 things we will teach our son or daughter:

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#1 – Compassion. Be kind, patient and generous with your love.

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#2 – Consideration. Think about others’ feelings and try to understand their unique situations.

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#3 – Honesty. Find a way to tell the truth and Open Adoption Hoping to Adoptseek it every chance you get.

#4 – Justice. Treat people fairly and fight to empower others.

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#5 – Determination. Take on challenges and grow with every opportunity.

A little pick-me-up

Waiting family looking for an open adoptionIn life and our day to day routines, sometimes we just need a little pick-me-up. Today has been one of those days for us. Maybe it’s been one for you too.

Maybe you’ve had a long week. Maybe you don’t feel well. Maybe being patient is starting to wear on you. Maybe you just need a break.

People told us before we started the adoption process that it was going to be a roller coaster. That our emotions would ebb and flow. That sometimes we would have all the hope and patience in the world only to wake up the next day and feel down. It’s true. It’s very true. But it gives us a sense of comfort to know that we aren’t alone in this journey. That one day we will be moms, and that it’s not a question of “if” but rather “when.” That fact definitely brings us peace when we grow impatient. It helps us live in the present knowing that one day in the (hopefully) near future, we will meet the child we are meant to parent. That it IS going to happen. And when it does happen, suddenly all of this will make sense. And all of the waiting will seem like it flew by.

This morning, we stumbled upon this image and we just love it. We hope you do too. And if you are a waiting family, breathe deeply, live in the present and know that your child is out there. And if you are a birthmother or a birth family, know that there are people out here who want so badly to love you and love your baby and be the best parents they can possibly be. Everything will come together and be so good so soon!


Looking for an open adoptionSo far in our journey we have spoken with one birthmother. We spoke with her once and, in our excitement and nervousness, made the mistake of not asking if we could contact her again. In order to reach out, you have to have the birthmother’s permission and preferred method of contact, which is totally understandable. We didn’t ask and, after hanging up, immediately regretted it. Flag this as a lesson learned as we move forward.

Though we only had one 30-minute conversation, we find ourselves still talking about her, wondering about her, and hoping that she (and the baby) are doing well. We think about how busy she must be with finals. We talk about how beautiful the weather has been and how she’s probably enjoying the time outdoors where she is. It’s strange, isn’t it? You can talk with someone for such a short time, yet they stay on your mind for months afterwards. Maybe even years. Maybe we will always wonder about her.

Birthmothers are such special people. They are daughters and granddaughters and sisters and aunts. They are brave women with incredible hearts filled with love. They deserve our care and respect. And when they contact us, we are so thankful. We want them to know that, even if we aren’t the chosen parents, they are not alone. They stay in our hearts and minds. And just as a birthmother never stops thinking about her child, we should never stop thinking about her.

Currently reading

Hoping to adopt We’re currently reading Eat, Sleep, Poop: A Common Sense Guide to Your Baby’s First Year and the highlighter is certainly getting a workout.

Written during award-winning pediatrician Dr. Scott W. Cohen’s first year as a father, this book is the only one to combine two invaluable “on the job” perspectives — the doctor’s and the new parent’s.

The result is a refreshingly engaging and informative guide that includes all you need to know at each age and stage of your child’s first year. Eat, Sleep, Poop addresses questions, strategies, myths and all aspects of your child’s development. In each instance, Dr. Cohen provides a thorough overview and a simple answer or explanation: a “common sense bottom line.” The emphasis is on doing what is medically sound and what works best for you and your baby. He also includes fact sheets, easy-to-follow diagnosis and treatment guides, and humorous daddy vs. doctor sidebars that reveal the learning curve during his first year as a dad.

Eat, Sleep, Poop is, hands down, the most thorough and reassuring parenting book we’ve read. It provides the knowledge we’ll need to parent with confidence, to relax and enjoy our baby’s first year, and to raise our child with the best tool parents can have: informed common sense.

What’s on your nightstand?

Dallas-Fort Worth and why we love it

Hoping to adoptLiving in DFW gives us access to all of the cultural events that are happening on any given weekend. This weekend, we drove 25 minutes north to Denton, to the Denton Arts & Jazz Festival. Jillian is the Assistant Director of Advertising at UNT, so we spend quite a bit of time in Denton, and we love the sense of community there.                                                                                                                   Every Christmas you’ll find us Looking to adopt at the Denton Holiday Lighting Festival, and throughout the year we enjoy exploring the stores and restaurants on the square, and enjoying brunch at one of our favorite places in DFW, Seven Mile Café. We can’t wait to introduce our child to these traditions!

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Our house is just a 20-minute drive to downtown Fort Worth, which was voted #1 in Livability.com’s Top 10 Best Downtowns. What they say about downtown Fort Worth captures it perfectly, “Few downtowns have achieved the cohesion between cowboy culture and urban sophistication that Fort Worth has.”

We love Open adoptionspending weekends in Fort Worth, volunteering at the BRIT, trying new restaurants, visiting museums, riding our bikes on the Trinity River Trails, or hanging out with friends at Open Streets. One place we can’t wait to take our child is the Fort Worth Zoo. It’s one of the best zoos we’ve ever been to, any biases aside. And Melia is very excited about sharing the gibbon habitat; it’s her absolute favorite!

Hoping to adoptWe’re also a 30-minute drive to the heart of Dallas, with its concert venues, artist communities like Bishop Arts, farmers markets, museums and beautiful botanical gardens. Last year we went to see the Polyphonic Spree Holiday Extravaganza at Lakewood Theater, and we hope to one day share it with our kid. Christmas songs, snowflakes falling from the sky, an appearance by Santa Claus, a magic show during intermission. So much fun!
Looking to adopt                                                                    And last year, for part of Melia’s birthday, we went to the Perot Museum and spent the entire afternoon exploring. We can’t help but think about how much more fun we will have when we can experience all of these places with our child. We live in such an incredible area, and there’s never a shortage of fun and educational things to do. If you haven’t                                                                                    been to Dallas-Fort Worth, it’s                                                                                                  definitely worth checking out!

Something’s coming, something good

With all of the ups and downs of the adoption process, we have to hold on to the ups as best we can.

I’ve had this song stuck in my head for days now (clearly I like musicals), and it’s fitting with how we’re feeling about where we’re at in our journey.

“Could it be? Yes, it could.
Something’s coming, something good,
If I can wait!
Something’s coming, I don’t know what it is,
But it is
Gonna be great!

With a click, with a shock,
Phone’ll jingle, door’ll knock,
Open the latch!
Something’s coming, don’t know when, but it’s soon;
Catch the moon,
One-handed catch!” – West Side Story