This morning we received an email letting us know that our IAC Adoption Profile is now fully live and searchable. We could not be more thrilled! We know our birthmother is out there, and that the flip side of being searchable is that we are now findable. We are celebrating every milestone of this process, because each milestone brings us closer to finding our child.
Our paperwork is officially agency bound! I think there’s something really cool about the fact that we finished our paperwork and sealed the envelope exactly a year to the day of our engagement. It’s incredible what can happen in a year, isn’t it?
As we sealed the envelope, we stood in our kitchen and thought about what it means to us to send an envelope that contains so much of our lives into the unknown. We know that there is a birthmother out there somewhere who will choose us. And there is a baby that will come home to us. In the words of our Adoption Coordinator, “I know it can be a little scary, but remember your birthmother will find you and you will parent. It’s just a matter of ‘when’ and not ‘if.'” Those words really touched us, and as we continue this journey, I am sure we will look back at these words time and time again.
We have faith that the universe will bring the birthmother into our lives at the perfect time, and that every thing that happens will be exactly as it’s meant to happen.
As always, all prayers and good vibes are very much appreciated.
Last weekend was a banner weekend for us. Not only was it Jillian’s birthday, but we also attended our second and final Independent Adoption Center (IAC) seminar.
We arrived to Houston a day early so we could visit a few local sites, including Saint Arnold’s Brewery, and have dinner at MKT Bar. As part of Jillian’s birthday gift, I rented a tiny house off of Airbnb. As fans of sustainability and living simply, we were both excited to see how maneuvering in such a tight space would go. Although we loved the simplicity of it, I don’t think we will be moving into a tiny house of our own any time soon. We love each other but man, those were close quarters!
Friday morning we woke up and headed to the adoption seminar. We were able to meet with Amber, our adoption coordinator, one on one, which was invaluable. The seminar began with us learning about what to expect as we take the next steps. We then moved to building our letter and profile, how to best network and — the most exciting part — contact from a potential birthparent. At lunch time, the women at IAC fed us pizza and specially-ordered cupcakes for Jillian’s birthday. We already loved our agency, but cupcakes?! We love them even more now.
The seminar was set to end at 5 p.m., but with questions that turned into long conversations between the three of us, we ran over. Amber was nice enough to schedule additional time with us when she is in Dallas so that we could make Jillian’s birthday dinner with her parents.
We talked about the seminar all the way to dinner, as well as throughout the evening and weekend. We kept saying, “We are DOING this!” It’s so exciting to be writing our birthparent letter and preparing for our home study. We are finding such joy in all of the little steps along the journey, and we can’t wait to see what else and who else we encounter along the way!
We had been looking forward to the Independent Adoption Center seminar for months. Jillian and I woke up early on Saturday, January 11, and headed to Addison to learn more about our adoption journey.
We arrived at the hotel and took our seats in a small conference room with twelve other couples. Over the course of almost four hours, we learned so much about the organization and the steps we need to take to move forward. We watched a video that included many touching testimonials, both from birth and adoptive families. Jillian and I were relieved to hear from so many families, and to see the families happy and blending almost seamlessly. You, too, can watch the video — posted below.
After the seminar, we went to lunch and talked for a long time. We discussed parenting styles, the experiences we want to give our child(ren), and even who we see in our minds when we envision our future birth mother. We can’t wait to meet her!
So our journey has begun. We are both nervous and excited — and we’re eager to take the next step: a two-day seminar in Houston.